I think it's sorta selfish for people to be invited to a wedding and expect something out of it, really. But then I've only been to like 2 weddings; one was just bizarre and the other was my brother's... so maybe I'm not of the mind that I expect something other than sharing in the moment. Anyways, to me, the idea that you guys are going to donate to charities (even if you did it in your guests' names) is awesome.

People want something from the wedding, they can take pictures. Those last longer, I hear. ;)

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I agree. A donation is a great idea.
Weddings shouldn't be about making the guests happy, they're about making the bride and groom happy. Do whatever you want!
The only way I'll feel cheated is if I can't make it.

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I think making donations to a charity would be a wonderful idea! Let's be honest...most favors are either food related (which last all of 3 seconds) or silly little knick-knacks that people don't really want/need but feel they have to keep. Most guests would be pleased at knowing that the favor money went towards something meaningful!

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Wedding thing: First of all, getting something you can eat is always good, but it usually has a little ribbon thing on it and then I feel guilty and don't eat it and it winds up sitting and going bad.

So, I definitely think that donating $ is a good thing. My cousin just did that. They had little signs on the table and then those little penny stick candy things. Tres cute!

And,

thank you for the birthday greetings! Can you imagine that 10 years ago we were in our freshman year of college?? Hmmm....I wonder what I was doing on my bday then....

:-)

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As someone who got married not TOO long ago (meaning less than ten years ago), I would say do what you feel would be best. Check out www.theknot.com if you haven't, and see what some message boards say. You don't necessarily have to give out favors, I don't think. I've been to weddings where you can print out a poem on nice paper and tie it in a ribbon as a favor. That's so simple and people remember it..it's pretty. You don't need chocolate as a favor. Do something that makes YOU feel special on your day. You want to thank your guests for being there on your special day, and want them to feel appreciated. Let them know that.

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